Untraditional Christmas Traditions

I can’t believe where this month has gone! We’re just two days from Christmas, which means there are less than 10 days left in the year. Where did 2009 go? For that matter, where did the last decade go?

As we gear up for family celebrations this year, it feels somewhat off kilter.  Normally we spend every other year in Florida with my family, but for the second year in a row we’ve opted to make the trip in the spring instead.

On the years we’ve been here in town, we’ve always spent Christmas night with my husband’s family, but over the last half dozen years or so, that’s shifted for one reason or another and it’s seem to become harder and harder to fit in that few hours of extended family time. Since we’ve decided to make the get-together the day after Christmas this year, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are going to be strictly immediate family days, which will be a real blessing. With one in college and one in highschool, we just don’t seem to get enough of that these days.

During the time I was juggling calenders with the sisters-in-law, trying to figure out a day and time that worked for everyone, my wise daughter made the off-the-cuff comment, “This is why traditions are a good thing.  Everyone just knows what we’re doing.”

But with four families of mostly gown kids that traditional dinner can be hard. All the traditions seem to change.  We used to take a family picture in front of the tree. This year, the kids were replaced with the bullies (Rose and Lily) because teenagers scoff at getting a picture taken. (They’ll tell you it’s because I love the bullies more. Don’t you believe it.)

I think we’re going to keep a rather new tradition though.  The last few years we’ve been home we’ve gone to the movies on Christmas Day. The kids and I especially are big movie buffs, and there is always such a good selection.  It’s time spent together and then a nice conversation after over dinner about the film. Though hubby insists we pick something that won’t have us all crying this year (Marley and Me was last year’s choice).

We’ll be honoring other traditions too. A turkey dinner on Christmas day. Family time on Christmas Eve. And we will have that family get-together too….it’ll just be the day after.

Published at Blogcritics: Sony Reader Adventure: Tall, Dark, and Fangsome by Michelle Rowan

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Not Old…Just Older

So, today my baby turns seventeen.

And how does she respond to my birthday wishes this morning?

Are yo feeling old yet?

profile5 Why yes, I am. Thank you very much.

And it’s not just my babies looking back at me as grown near-adults either.  The aches and the pain, the inability to tolerate the cold, the new dependency on Tums, none of that helps either. (And let’s not even talk about the gray roots — yeah, thank goodness for Miss Clairol.)

On the way home from dropping her off at school, a Bon Jovi song came up on the iPod that sort of put it all in perspective though.  (One of my favorites by the way)

Well, I look in the mirror
I don’t hate what I see
There’s a few more lines staring back at me
Now the nights has grown a little colder
Hey man, I gotta run
Now you take care
If you see coach T. Tell him I’ve cut my hair
I’ve kept my faith
I still belive I’m just…

I like the bed I’m sleeping in
It’s just like me, it’s broken in
It’s not old – just older
Like a favorite pair of torn blue jeans
This skin I’m in it’s alright with me
It’s not old – just older

If you’ve never heard the song before, Check it out:

Learning to Breathe

What? That’s an odd concept hu? Breathing is instinctual. Isn’t it?

Well, yeah, the kind of breathing that keeps you walking around and semi-conscious is, but if learning to find peace in the most stressful times were automatic, I probably would be on blood pressure meds.

breathe The holiday are all about stress. I feel like a real Scrooge saying that but it’s true, especially if you’re a control freak like me.  My daily to-do lists in December are crowded with chores that are specific to this time  year: Taking holiday pictures, making out the Christmas cards, doing the shopping, wrapping the presents, decorating, etc. And let’s not forget these are in addition to the everyday aspects of an already busy life.

As I was planning out my daily lists for the rest of the week, my eyes focused in on the date: December 16. The month is half gone and in a little over two weeks 2009 will be a memory. So today I thought I’d make a list of things (or ways) to enjoy what’s left of what is supposed to be the season of peace, love, and selflessness.

Veiwing the Christmas lights: As my kids have gotten older, this is an old tradition that’s fell by the wayside.  But Maybe we’ll try to fit this one back in.  Twenty minutes spent in the car together can be relaxing and bonding. And there are people in our neighborhood who have put a lot of time into their lights display. It’d be a shame not to enjoy it.

Baking: There is a possibility this one could back fire on you. Too many cooks in the kitchen…and all of that. But with patience and pre-planning baking can fill the house with laughter (And tummies with goodies. Warning: this practice and also make your clothes not fit quite right)

Playing a game together: This activity use to be a Christmas afternoon staple when the kids were younger and got games for Christmas, but like that commercial says: Game night is a great way to spend family time. (And playing Wii can help work off those cookies.)

Published at BC: Sony Reader Adventure: Holiday With a Vampire

As I mentioned in my Sony Reader review last week, I love a good paranormal story and nothing is better than the classic vampire tale. By classic, I mean old school vamp: dark and brooding, relegated to the night, and on a restricted diet not some of the modern reconstructions. At this time or year, it’s nice to take a break from the hustle and bustle with a holiday story, something Harlequin is good at providing, and in this Silhouette Nocturne, Holiday With a Vampire, I was treated to two vampire stories set during the season of giving.  (Continue Reading)

Reaching Higher

This is the time of year when life just gets crazy on us. With the shopping, decorating, baking, wrapping presents etc, we barely have time to breathe, let alone focus on career goals. Don’t even get me started on loft career goals, like getting a book published.

reaching_higherBut the fact of the matter is if you want to succeed in a field that is so hard to break into, there really is no time for holidays or breaks. And as we reach year end, that time of reflection where we look at the year past and make goals for the coming one, I find myself believing there’s one road to success and the road signs all say one thing: Work Hard!

So, instead of giving myself permission to slack off because it’s the holidays, I’m setting my goals higher than normal.  ‘Good enough’ isn’t any where close to acceptable. And the one thing I know for sure is if I can do it during December, doing it the rest of the year will be a snap. They say it takes thirty days of reptition to make something a habit. I’m hoping by January 11 high daily word counts will be a habit and not a goal that seems just out of reach.

Maybe then, the main destination will come into focus.

In the meantime, I can scratch one round of holiday baking off my list. (I’m sure the brownies are going to shrink my jeans.) And most of my shopping is done. Hope to get the carsd and packages mailed this weekend and the wrapping done early next.  There’s a few holiday parties looming between now and the day of celebration, but I do believe it’s possible to share the season with family and friends, and still stay focused on my goals.

Published on BC: Sony Reader Adventure: Born of Fire by Sherrilyn Kenyon

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